Tuesday, June 23, 2009

A Professional Mom......

So all of you know, well, most of you know that I work and I have two kids and have been married for the last 14 years....I came across a blog a while back and have been stalking her regularly. She was asked this question at her last "have to go be a good wife on the arm of a good man at his corporate function," "what do you do?" She was almost afraid to answer that she is a stay at home mom, who gave up the corporate world to be a homemaker.....this was my response.....

"Oh what a question! You see people see me almost everyday with my "mom" hat on and yet they see me everyday with my "professional" hat as well. I am living in the minority dream and that has no racial connections. You see, I am a stay at home mom, a professional helping to run a very successful corporation and I am a wife to the same man for the last 14 years. Of course, I didn't start that way.....but the long and short of it is that I wanted to be a professional. I loved my job and then I had our first child....loved being a mom but was torn about whether or not we could afford for me not to work. So I vowed by the time our second child came along that it would be my choice to work or not...along came the opportunity for me to work from home for a short time, then I was allowed to take my kids with me to work until they were of school age...perfect (for me)! I think we all can only do what we believe to be the best for our families and ourselves. When I was working from home I found myself a slave to my every inner notion of being a good mom and in turn over did it. Not that I turned into the wicked witch of the west. But I definitely was not doing my kids any favors. I am a better mom when I am feeding my need to be accepted as a professional, child rearing, loving wife. I didn't like fading into the background but I have learned how to do that when my husband needs to be in the spotlight....and he has learned to appreciate my juggling act. So I do very much so believe that it is what works for every family and their personality....Don't be afraid to be proud of what you are doing, and shout it from the rooftops if you must (or you can blog about it)....you are very much like my sister, it is her greatest joy to be a parent and would never dream of juggling the way I do....it is also, not to slight myself, my greatest joy to be a parent. My children, of course, come first - way before my job, but.... My job just helps me keep that in perspective."

I know this doesn't give the details of what I do or how I am able to do this, but I do think that every mom should be proud of their position in society....it's what makes this world go round....

Just thought I would share and see what ya'll think....

1 comment:

Carrie said...

Right on, Sis!

Most stay-at-home moms end up working for money in some capacity or another, anyway.